Struggle Session: Dildos and Randos
Dec. 5th, 2025 04:16 pm![[syndicated profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/feed.png){kind=small}
savagelove_feedStruggle Session is a bonus column where I respond to comments — just a few — from readers and listeners. I also share a letter that won’t be included in the column and invite my readers to share their advice. Q22 in this month’s Quickies column was from a “vagina-having person” who was wondering whether … Read More »
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After Action Report #7
Dec. 5th, 2025 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedHear the harrowing tale of the masochist lad who walked into the dungeon and ended up getting flogged…a lot. Did he like it? Would he do it again? Listen and find out. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: Q@Savage.Love Do you have a comment for this show? … Read More »
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Oh, No, I said "Steamed Hams"
Dec. 4th, 2025 11:41 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
madbakerTen points for correctly placing the post title.
This week's Resolution Recipe: Steamed Clams in Black Bean Sauce.
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This week's Resolution Recipe: Steamed Clams in Black Bean Sauce.
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Quickies
Dec. 2nd, 2025 12:00 pmsavagelove_feed1. Is Donald Trump a gay man? I can’t think of anything that screams “closeted gay” louder than building a golden ballroom. Donald Trump has been married to three different women (two of whom were immigrants), he’s been credibly accused of sexual harassment and assault by dozens of women, and he was found liable — … Read More »
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Just Play. Don’t Roleplay.
Dec. 2nd, 2025 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedListen in on Dan’s conversation with a woman who learned that her husband had an affair early in their relationship. It turns out she’s been chatting with the other woman for a year without knowing it was her! She lives up the street! Dan advises her on whether to broach the subject with her husband’s … Read More »
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faster than a roller coaster
Dec. 1st, 2025 10:33 pmwwdn_feedIn just a couple days, I’ll get up at are-you-fucking-serious o’clock to get on a who-flies-this-fucking-early plane to go across the country, where I will land at you-just-spent-the-entire-day-on-a-plane o’clock, just in time for rush hour.
I know, I make it sound really awesome, and you’re all deeply envious of me. I’ll try not to flex about it too much.
I’m going to be on a little tour of New England to watch Stand By Me with my cast mates and a few hundred of our closest friends. It’s just three nights, with five hours days in a tour bus between them. It’s all going to happen so fast, it’ll be over before I know it, and that feels weird, since we’ve been talking about it for almost a year. I don’t know how the reality can match the buildup, but I’m looking forward to seeing what it brings.
If these shows go well (and we all expect them to go well) we have plans to do a bunch of cities next year, to celebrate the 40th anniversary of our film, and what it continues to mean to multiple generations of audiences. We already booked a handful in March, and if the stars and planets align, we’ll be doing something in a city near you, and something in Oregon, close to where we filmed the movie, next summer. Cross your fingers for us!
Once again, the locations for this week:
- December 4 at Capitol Center for the Arts in Concord, New Hampshire
- December 5 at Count Basie Center for the Arts in Red Bank, New Jersey
- December 6 at Lynn Memorial Auditorium in Lynn, Massachusetts.
Oh, also! We didn’t release a new Storytime last week because it was a holiday here, but there’s a new one dropping on Wednesday. ALSO! I have my very first host-read ad coming up, which is something I never thought I’d been excited about, but it turns out I am. It’s so cool that something I made, that I love so much, that I want to do until I retire, is working out the way I’d hoped! Getting sponsors is one of those things that creates its own inertia, and is the best way we can keep doing the show for years (unless I get super lucky and 100,000 people want to be Patreon supporters — not entirely unrealistic, but not very likely, either).
I’m super grateful to be doing something I love, that I do well, that matters to people. It’s easy to forget that, or lose sight of it in the *gestures broadly at all this fucking shit every fucking day*, so I’m making an effort to remember.
If you want to get updates from the road, updates about future shows, and never miss one of my posts, here’s the thing:
Look! I remembered to post before December started this year!
Nov. 30th, 2025 02:42 am![[staff profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user_staff.png){kind=small}
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dw_newsHello, friends! It's about to be December again, and you know what that means: the fact I am posting this actually before December 1 means karzilla reminded me about the existence of linear time again. Wait, no -- well, yes, but also -- okay, look, let me back up and start again: it's almost December, and that means it's time for our annual December holiday points bonus.
The standard explanation: For the entire month of December, all orders made in the Shop of points and paid time, either for you or as a gift for a friend, will have 10% of your completed cart total sent to you in points when you finish the transaction. For instance, if you buy an order of 12 months of paid time for $35 (350 points), you'll get 35 points when the order is complete, to use on a future purchase.
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Thank you, in short, for being the best possible users any social media site could possibly ever hope for. I'm probably in danger of crossing the Sappiness Line if I haven't already, but you all make everything worth it.
On behalf of Mark, Jen, Robby, and our team of awesome volunteers, and to each and every one of you, whether you've been with us on this wild ride since the beginning or just signed up last week, I'm wishing you all a very happy set of end-of-year holidays, whichever ones you celebrate, and hoping for all of you that your 2026 is full of kindness, determination, empathy, and a hell of a lot more luck than we've all had lately. Let's go.
karzilla reminded me about the existence of linear time again. Wait, no -- well, yes, but also -- okay, look, let me back up and start again: it's almost December, and that means it's time for our annual December holiday points bonus.The standard explanation: For the entire month of December, all orders made in the Shop of points and paid time, either for you or as a gift for a friend, will have 10% of your completed cart total sent to you in points when you finish the transaction. For instance, if you buy an order of 12 months of paid time for $35 (350 points), you'll get 35 points when the order is complete, to use on a future purchase.
( The fine print and much more behind this cut! )
Thank you, in short, for being the best possible users any social media site could possibly ever hope for. I'm probably in danger of crossing the Sappiness Line if I haven't already, but you all make everything worth it.
On behalf of Mark, Jen, Robby, and our team of awesome volunteers, and to each and every one of you, whether you've been with us on this wild ride since the beginning or just signed up last week, I'm wishing you all a very happy set of end-of-year holidays, whichever ones you celebrate, and hoping for all of you that your 2026 is full of kindness, determination, empathy, and a hell of a lot more luck than we've all had lately. Let's go.
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Nov. 28th, 2025 09:42 ammadbakerThanksgiving with my dad went well. He is doing much better, although he still can't have alcohol or spicy food while he is on blood thinners. The traditional dishes tasted like my childhood ones. The Marlborough Pudding (apple custard pie) was good and fully set, despite some crust failure. I used a bit too much butter/lard and the sides slumped, so the slightly over-full filling covered the crust completely. And of course that meant a soggy bottom. But making a day ahead meant that it removed from the pie pan easily, at least, and I am looking forward to leftovers with tea today.
After Action Report #6
Nov. 28th, 2025 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedMeet Chrissy, a bisexual woman and self-identified pervert, who went to a sex club for the first time. What happened there? Well, let’s just say you may feel…shocked. Want to tell your tale? Write us at Q@Savage.Love
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Struggle Session: A Very Special GangBang for Readers Outside the US!
Nov. 27th, 2025 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedLike most of my readers, I’m taking the day off — Happy Thanksgiving to all who masticate — but we have readers (and Magnum Subs!) all over the world. So, for our international readers, I’m going to share a few questions that came in this week. A little something for our commenters outside the US … Read More »
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Happy Spanksgiving
Nov. 25th, 2025 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedI’m gay and go to a small liberal arts school. I have a crush on this one guy, but he brought up — unprompted — that he’s Aro/Ace. I really like him. We have great conversations in a lab we have together, and I think he’s super attractive. But every time I’ve tried to extend our … Read More »
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Happy Trauma-Informed Thanksgiving!
Nov. 25th, 2025 12:00 pmsavagelove_feedWe know you’re struggling. So we brought in the most soothing human on the planet-Jeff Guenther a.k.a. Therapy Jeff- to offer tips on how to get through Thanksgiving with your nasty family. In short, don’t take the bait, find your family buddy, and if you are alone on the holiday, get thee to a gay … Read More »
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