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Posted by Wil

https://wilwheaton.net/2025/10/on-october-23rd-you-can-come-hear-me-speak-about-mental-health-care-and-trauma-recovery/

One of the privileges I enjoy in my life is the opportunity to speak openly and honestly about my mental health struggles, challenges, and successes. I get to be the person I need in the world, and I get to pay forward the kindness and support so many people gave me while I was in the early years of recovery and scared to death that I would suffer night terrors, panic attacks, and uncontrollable anxiety for the rest of my life.

A combination of medication, EMDR and IFS therapy, and the love and support of my close friends and family all came together to save my life (literally) and help me find a way into a life that is fulfilling and joyful more often than it is not.

I am not suggesting that there’s nothing tricky about it, it’s just a little trick¹. What I am saying is, access to medical care — physical and mental — is a human right, and in the richest country in the world, it should be freely accessible to everyone.

Until then, I am honored and grateful to lend my voice and my support to the organizations who work tirelessly to provide that care at low or no cost, organizations that are so important and always underfunded.

One of those organizations is right here in my backyard, and on October 23, I am speaking at the San Fernando Valley Community Mental Health Center’s 55th Anniversary Gala. We hope to raise some money to help them help our neighbors, and I’m going to share my story, which I hope inspires someone to take the first step on their own recovery journey.

We’re doing this at the magnificent Valley Relics Museum, and the event is open to the public. If you’re able to come to Van Nuys later this month, I hope you’ll join us.

That would be the Brad Jacobs … something or other. ︎

https://wilwheaton.net/2025/10/on-october-23rd-you-can-come-hear-me-speak-about-mental-health-care-and-trauma-recovery/

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Posted by Nancy Hartunian

https://savage.love/lovecast/2025/10/07/shibari-for-you-and-me/

https://savage.love/?p=11127

Shibari for you and me! A woman and her boyfriend, (in an open relationship) tried shibari and enjoyed the intimacy of it. She suggested they exclusively practice shibari with each other, unlike all the other sexual activities they do with their other lovers. At first he agreed, but now he’s balking. Should she try to … Read More »

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Posted by Patrick Kearney

https://savage.love/savagelove/2025/10/07/the-cuckling/

https://savage.love/?p=11131

Hey, Magnum Subs! We’re having Savage Love Live on Wednesday at noon Pacific time. Check your email tomorrow morning for an invite and a link to the show! — Dan I’m a bi girl in a serious relationship with a bi guy, and said bi guy has a major thing for being cucked. We’ve had … Read More »

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https://xkcd.com/3151/

The Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine or Home Improvement or DIY

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madbaker

This week's Resolution Recipe: Yorkshire curd tart.
"This is traditionally eaten at Pentecost. It's an old form of cheesecake that was traditionally made with beestings, or colostrum, the first milk a cow produces after calving. In more recent years, the cake has been made with curd cheese."
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Current Mood: sleepy

madbaker

We went to Mists Coronet yesterday. Overall, I am glad we did and we had a good time.

We probably wouldn't have gone if it weren't for my SCA job - which is one major reason I took it. Once we're there we typically enjoy ourselves, but getting over the donwannas has been difficult. Anyway, slight car foo getting there due to the interchanges not being the same as the last umpty-hundredth time we went to the site, but no big deal.

Geoffrey and Crystal camped and have a new sunshade, so I hung out with them as part of St. Teresa. The wife spent the day next door with Morgan & Greg and more people. I wandered around a bit, chatted with people both job-related and not, and generally had a good low-key day. Due to a miscommunication we didn't bring any sunscreen, so my shoulders are a little burned but not too bad - my peasant bucket hat did its job.

We had dinner onsite with the rest of the Company. I brought a quick-pickle cucumber dish from Platina, which went well with the warm and dusty day, and creme bastarde (fake whipping cream) which is a sweetened milk and egg white dish. Kind of like rice pudding in being sweet and bland. We also had a lovely chicken in verjuice, mushrooms and chestnuts, aged cheese, and a chicken fritter that would have been very good direct from the fryer but was cool by the time it was served.

We made it home around 8:30 and I went straight to bed as soon as our stuff was out of the car. I am still tired today, from peopling and also from walking around on gopher-caused uneven ground.

Current Mood: exhausted

learnteach

Haven't posted much. Some notes:

1. Tori passed away. I found out from a friend, who sent me a note while I was watching a show. Not a shock, but not much chance of closure. He was a big influence on me--chickens, motorcycle, handicap--he walked the path first.

2. Still missing Kristin.

3. Wendy is cancer free but crippled now. Difficult, complicated situation in her family. I am persona non grata.

4. Got a new room mate--Andrew--working out nicely so far.

5. Leg is finally improving. Finally got a referal to a cardiologist (I really need to be more pushy) who explained aspects of the Afib then told me that I didn't have to avoid caffiene, but I need to cut NaCl out of my diet. Then he perscribed diuretic medicine which dropped 20 pounds of water weight, fixed my hypertension, and dropped my pain level. In 3 days. Let's see what a week will do.

6. Birthday party for Mom went well. yay!

7 Van died on way to dance. No taking money meeting friends. On the hunt for a new (used) car that I find comfortable, can be maintained, and reliable!

More later.

cvirtue

I found out that my hometown newspaper has archives going back 200 years, and spent a lot of today searching out articles about my older relatives, which was entertaining. I discovered that my grandfather, who ended his life as a respected general manager of a very large paper mill, was a dastardly youth who had more than a few traffic tickets, such as passing a streetcar when it was unloading, for which he was fined $5 in 1933 (that's $125 in today's dollars.) Here's a pic of my grandmother.

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https://xkcd.com/3150/

Progress on getting shipwrecked sailors to adopt ICMPv6 has been slow.

https://xkcd.com/3150/

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Posted by Wil

https://wilwheaton.net/2025/10/no-kings/

https://wilwheaton.net/?p=9779

Seriously. Fuck these fascists. Join a No Kings protest on October 18 and stand up for our rights and our democracy.

https://wilwheaton.net/2025/10/no-kings/

https://wilwheaton.net/?p=9779

cvirtue

It's difficult to keep up with the firehose of crazy - get on the free email lists from organizations that monitor and respond to civil rights violations.
It will help you not get overwhelmed.

For example, last week, Trump told his people that any of these opinions mean someone is a potential terrorist:

anti-capitalism,
anti-Christianity,
extremism on migration, race, or gender
hostility towards those who hold traditional American views on family, religion, and morality.

Note that there is no definition of "extremism."

Some articles:
Trump's NSPM-7 memo casts critics of Christianity as enemies of the state
https://www.friendlyatheist.com/p/trumps-nspm-7-memo-casts-critics

ACLU Statement on the Trump Administration's Memorandum Targeting Political Opponents
https://www.aclu.org/press-releases/aclu-statement-on-the-trump-administrations-memorandum-targeting-political-opponents

Trump Called for a Crackdown on the ‘Radical Left.’ But Right-Wing Extremists Are Responsible for More Political Violence
https://time.com/7317383/political-violence-america-trump-crackdown-right/

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Posted by Dan Savage

https://savage.love/savagelove/2025/10/02/struggle-session-important-corrections-fluffy-dragons-and-more/

https://savage.love/?p=11066

Hey, gang: I’m in Berlin on a quick birthday trip with the boyfriend… so, it’s gonna short session today. But please don’t think I’m slacking: I was today’s guest on Jung & Naiv, Germany’s biggest independent news and politics podcast. I spent more than two hours (!) talking about fascism, sexism, queer rights, Franco’s Spain, … Read More »

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Posted by katepreach

https://captainawkward.com/2025/10/02/october-london-meetup-6/

http://captainawkward.com/?p=53192

Announcement: the audience for these has changed, so I’m going to do them once every three or four months instead of monthly. So please come to this October one if you’re interested, there won’t be another until probably January.

11th October, 1pm, Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX.

We will be on Level 4 blue side (the upper levels are no longer closed to non-ticket-holders), but I don’t know exactly where on the floor. It will depend on where we can find a table.

I have shoulder length brown hair, and will have my plush Chthulu which looks like this:

Please obey any rules posted in the venue.

The venue has lifts to all floors and accessible toilets. The accessibility map is here:

https://bynder.southbankcentre.co.uk/m/43a9fcbe0e718ba3/original/21539-32_Access-Map_DIGI.pdf

The food market outside (side away from the river) is pretty good for all sorts of requirements, and you can also bring food from home, or there are lots of cafes on the riverfront.

Other things to bear in mind:

1. Please make sure you respect people’s personal space and their choices about distancing.

2. We have all had a terrible time for the last four years. Sharing your struggles is okay and is part of what the group is for, but we need to be careful not to overwhelm each other or have the conversation be entirely negative. Where I usually draw the line here is that personal struggles are fine to talk about but political rants are discouraged, but I may have to move this line on the day when I see how things go. Don’t worry, I will tell you!

3. Probably lots of us have forgotten how to be around people (most likely me as well), so here is permission to walk away if you need space. Also a reminder that we will all react differently, so be careful to give others space if they need.

Please RSVP if you’re coming so I know whether or not we have enough people. If there’s no uptake I will cancel a couple of days before.

kate DOT towner AT gmail DOT com

https://captainawkward.com/2025/10/02/october-london-meetup-6/

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https://xkcd.com/3149/

"Measure zero times, cut zero times." --carpenter who has achieved enlightenment and realized the wood is fine where it is

https://xkcd.com/3149/

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Posted by Patrick Kearney

https://savage.love/savagelove/2025/09/30/quickies-84/

https://savage.love/?p=11117

1. How’s anal with someone with pearls in their dick? I’m getting some installed soon. You’re referring to pearling, a body modification where small pearl-like beads are inserted under the skin of the penis. Post-pearling, your cock — to the untrained eye (read: most eyes) — is gonna look like it’s covered in cysts that … Read More »

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Posted by Nancy Hartunian

https://savage.love/lovecast/2025/09/30/when-fear-turns-you-on/

https://savage.love/?p=11115

How can a woman safely indulge her kink when the thing that turns her on is fear? A man is convinced that his bidet use makes him pee more. Our long suffering, patient and kind medical expert, Doc Barak is back to sigh heavily and pretend to take the question seriously. Also, can we trust … Read More »

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